Stupid

Now-ex had been flirting with a boy at work. An engaged boy. A boy whom she assumed was "safe" and fun to fake-flirt with because A) he was an engaged boy and B) he knew she was/has been dating a woman (and she never shared with him the suggestion that she might date a guy).

She enjoyed his company. They started hanging out more. Her boss warned her that he might be taking it differently than her. I warned her that her play-flirting is not often understood as play-flirting.

Nevertheless, she assumed she was in control of the situation and two weeks ago she attended his birthday drinking fest. The other co-workers at the gathering left as Now-Ex arrived - she was to be drunk co-worker boy's ride home. Well... apparently he took advantage of his inebriated situation and told her he loved her and then kissed her repeatedly every time she got close enough. (She claims it was a loud bar and he kept gesturing like he was going to say something so she'd lean in to hear and he'd kiss her instead... though she kept turning and he kept getting hair or cheek or chin.)

Well she came home feeling "unsafe" and "betrayed" and wouldn't talk about it with anyone for days. He harassed her the entire next day by calling twice an hour (supposedly to apologize). I, of course, was NOT allowed to know at all which was a killer because I wanted to be supportive but knew that I'd go into some sort of jealous rage if I found out. Eventually (obviously) I did but it had died down and she's now attempting to be friends with him again. (Though she still feels that he killed the friendship they had and now everything is touchy.)